Does time heals all wounds?
The myth that time heals all wounds has sadly done a lot of damage. Just because it’s been a year, 3 years, or 10 years doesn’t mean things automatically become easier. Emotions don’t just evaporate or disappear they have to go somewhere. If you bottle them up, they often release uncontrollably. It’s up to you to determine how your emotions are released and transformed; either for the better or for the worse. This is what makes support groups so powerful. They provide a safe space to channel or unpack complex emotions and talk about it with others who are experiencing or have experienced similar challenges.
Is what I’m going through normal?
Chances are the answer is yes. This is a very common question that plagues the minds of those who experience their first significant loss. Whatever you’re going through there’s a high chance that it’s normal. Whether it’s the emotional roller coaster or the unbelievable quarrels with the bank, utilities company, or funeral company we understand that these ‘compounding griefs’ are a devastating reality for many people. That doesn’t mean you have to accept these challenges and roll with the punches. We aim to be there to provide support, insight, and tips to overcome some of these issues, whether emotional, financial, social, or otherwise.
Will I ever be truly happy again?
Yes! Everyone can recover from being stuck in their grief. Grief is a journey, not a place to stay. Although your life will never be the same after a significant loss, especially when we’re talking about a loss of life, your new life can be fill with richness and strength. Your love for what you have lost must fuel your passion to live life to the fullest. This is definitely easier said than done, which is why it’s important not try and do it alone. Is grief kind of the same for everyone? Yes and no. No matter who or what has been lost nor how the loss occurred, there are lots of similarities in everyone’s grief experiences. Nevertheless, grief is also a unique journey for everyone in the sense that your history, social network, and own personal strengths and weaknesses will play a major part.
Does talking about it really help?
It’s important to connect with others, preferably those who have experienced a similar loss, during this journey. When our life is ‘disconnected’ from what we lost, we naturally begin to connect with something else. Sometimes people connect with unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as drugs, alcohol, or other activities. Instead, developing connections with positive things is crucial. Such as with yourself, being true to your feelings and exploring them, connecting with others, and also with positive coping mechanisms such as art, meditation, physical exercise, and so on. So, yes absolutely. Talking about it in a healthy way and in a positive setting is one of the best things you can do. And it’s okay to feel angry, sad, guilty, hurt, or otherwise when you talk about it sometimes. These are emotions not enemies and they are all natural and normal parts of the journey.
Are Support Groups morbidly depressing?
Not at all, they are the warmest and most comfortable space you could ever be in. At first, almost everyone feels anxious, worried, or burdened in some way. Soon, most people realise that others in group really understand them and they can be very open about what’s going on. The stories can sometimes be depressing but we are not about being stuck in a negative space. It’s an interesting paradox really it’s vital to be sad and share these emotions; only then will you feel happy. Of course, it’s a bit more complicated than that but that’s the idea. Sharing really is caring! The underlying reason why it all works out is because connection, driven by empathy, fuels growth and recovery from the burdens of grief.